“Life Lesson Exposed: Trust + Surrender”

Posted on Feb. 05, 2010 by Baeth in General

You asked and I listened. I polled you on the #1 Thing that’s been holding you back from achieving your true calling and the answer is consistently: “Baeth, that’s easy! My LIFE LESSON!”

As there is so much fascination and fear about Life Lessons, I’m introducing a brand new article series on the various Life Lessons you may possess and how to harness their incredible, life-changing power for your own good. Whether you have a particular Life Lesson or not, chances are high you will relate to the opportunities and challenges the lesson presents.

The Life Lesson is determined from the Life Purpose Blueprint in your fingerprints.

In this article, we’ll explore a popular Life Lesson: “trust, surrender and intimacy issues.” It is a lesson that is often misunderstood but with great opportunities for self-discovery by its owner.

If you have trust, surrender and intimacy issues as your Life Lesson, you may experience a deep and personal connection to God, to the divine. You may feel that God, angels and spirits communicate directly to you, giving you guidance on many matters in your life. You may also find that a strong energy moves through your body from the top of your head to the tips of your toes. You may be aware of a connection to something much larger than yourself, perhaps a connection to infinite intelligence, eternity or infinity.

You may mistrust yourself sometimes, wondering, “Am I really experiencing this?” or “Why is God telling ME all this? Can’t He tell someone else? I don’t want to know this much!” The opportunity here is to realize that you are specially designed to receive these messages and use them for your own self-development. It is important to not brag about these messages nor be silent about them either. Use them for yourself first. Through trial and error, you’ll begin to discover which messages to share and which ones to keep to yourself.

You are here to learn how to trust your inner wisdom, surrender to the guidance you receive and develop your own relationship with your authentic self. As you come to know yourself, others can come to know you. If you do not take these steps, you may find that you too easily trust others or don’t trust anyone at all. You may also be a person that others find they can’t trust, because you waffle in your decisions, certain one moment and doubting your guidance the next.

A short cut to progressing in this Life Lesson is to be EXPLICIT in sharing your inner process to the APPROPRIATE PEOPLE. Sharing your inner world with a therapist, a coach, a lover or a close friend can help you find your spiritual truth and trust it. This is authentic ’surrender’ and it takes great courage.

If you refuse to trust your inner guidance, renege on your most important decisions, fail to communicate effectively or demand that others communicate with you in a specific, overly detailed manner, you may find yourself experiencing isolation, loneliness and creative stagnation.

Here are some examples of common scenarios I’ve observed with the trust, surrender and intimacy issues Life Lesson:

·        Francesca, an executive head hunter, sends me an email. I don’t receive the email or it goes into my spam folder. She assumes I am ignoring her and doesn’t ask if I received her email. IF I ever hear from her again (usually by persistently tracking her down to find out why she isn’t taking my calls), I’m told that my communication abilities are flawed and disorganized on top of my being insensitive, thoughtless and rude. That’s the “specific, overly detailed” communication style I mentioned earlier. At this point, my attempts to explain I never saw the email fall on deaf ears. Francesca no longer trusts me, although the story of her rejection happened entirely in her own mind.

REMEMBER: Logic will be USELESS when you are in the GRIP of your Life Lesson or someone you know is in the grip of theirs. Some people go their whole life believing a story about an event that is based in nothing but illusion (the shadow side of authentic communication).

·        Joey, an inventor, visualizes a successful outcome with a creative project that he’s been imagining for years. Instead of taking action on the vision, he second-guesses his instincts and procrastinates. Time passes. Then, Joey comes across the project as envisioned and COMPLETED by someone else. Ooops. Bummer. Especially since it’s an invention that sold millions!

·        Amy, a painter, makes a powerful decision and significant financial investment to apprentice with an artist whose work she admires. After a few communication snafus (that Amy created by refusing to follow the artist’s instructions and refusing to follow up), she decides this artist is a nit-wit and wants her money back.

It doesn’t occur to Amy that she knew this was a great decision when she made it - because this more-experienced artist would hold her accountable when her Life Lesson reared its head. As much as Amy truly wants to be SEEN and known for who she really is - she will back away as the intimacy increases with her mentor. This sabotage plunges Amy into feelings of isolation and creative constipation.

Instead of reaching out to clear up the communication breakdown, she cuts off all contact and retreats back into the world she knows, rather than trusting her initial decision and surrendering to the unfolding process. Her own painting, curiously, grinds to a halt.

If you have this lesson, remember this: if you call someone, give them a few days to call you back. If they don’t, call again. Then LET GO. Assume the best - the person is away in Fiji for the month and will call you when they get back. If a month or two passes with no word, try again by writing a letter. Then let it go. Surrender.

If your best attempts at communicating YOUR inner truth are not received, you can then trust there is no intimacy happening. As they says, “He or she just isn’t that into you.” But until then, TRUST and give the other person the benefit of the doubt.  Because your trust meter needs adjusting with this Life Lesson, it’s important to let others SHOW YOU who they are - and give them the chance to do so - before writing them off. Also, if you are harboring resentment toward something you feel they ‘did to you,’ there is really only ONE QUESTION: did you explicitly communicate your inner experience in the moment, or not?

Most importantly, when you feel disconnected, isolated or mistrusting, remember YOUR SOURCE and connect back with God and infinite intelligence. That will always bring you back to the truth. You may remember that everyone is made of Divine substance and thus, everyone is doing their best, even if you wish you could control the process and timing with which life moves.

Let go. Listen. Surrender. LOVE.

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